Lies I Battle When I Date


Hello, Brave Ones! Thought I’d share some personal stuff today. I went out on a blind date last Wednesday and we had a very nice time, so when he asked me out at the end of the date, I said yes!

From the outside, this is exciting–a guy who likes me, who I am still interested in getting to know, wants to hang out again. You would think after the date, I would be confident and thrilled, anticipating the next one.

But when opportunities like this come along, that’s when the real battle begins. Dating has never come easy for me. I overthink everything, and Satan’s lies do their best to break in:

“You may think he’s interested, but he’s just stringing you along. He’ll end things and you won’t know why, yet again.”

“You’ll mess this up because you’re bad at dating, and when the crazy rises to the surface you’ll freak out and bolt.”

Or the worst…

“You’re not healthy enough to fall in love with a good man. You’ll only ever crave the ones who are dangerously exciting and who make you earn their love because that’s how you’ve always been and always will be.”

Clearly, these are LIES–lies of despair and captivity. I have to bring them to the forefront of my mind and speak God’s truth over them. If I don’t, they will either sit and fester in my spirit or spin out of control–causing damage either way.

Here’s what I have to say to these lies:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV)

“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” 2 Cor. 4:16 (ESV)

“…and you’ve become a new person. This new person is continually renewed in knowledge to be like its Creator.” Colossians 3:10 (ESV)

So today, I speak these truths of our Savior over myself and over all of you! May you have a truly blessed day.


Did God Make a Mistake?


Do you ever feel like you were born in the wrong time or place? I have personally struggled with this concept my whole life.

Occasionally, I have conversations with people about my parents who got divorced when I was younger and I explain to the person, that my parents shouldn’t have gotten married because they weren’t a good match for each other.

Then they reply, yes, but you wouldn’t be here. And I in turn argue, that may be true, but God could have put my soul in a different body somewhere else in the world. Preferably in a state with real seasons, vast forests (instead of plains), and a better public transportation system.

But lately God has been convicting me of thinking this way–that He somehow messed up in the placement department. The problem with my theory is, God doesn’t make mistakes. He had a plan even before we existed.

‘For you formed my inward parts;
you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well.’
~Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)

That doesn’t sound like a God who dropped me in Texas and went, “Oops! That’s not where she was supposed to go…My bad. Hopefully she’ll make the best out it.”

So I would like to continue to challenge myself and all of us, the next time we feel like God made a mistake in putting us where we are at, consider that maybe we are EXACTLY where He wants us to be…”…for such a time as this.” (Esther 4:14)